I had never heard of Indigo children five years ago. But I kept
seeing these kids in my parenting classes that seem to shine. They were always active and full of themselves. Very hard to handle for parents and irritating to other adults. But then I started to see a pattern with some of the children and realized that not only did I know Indigo Children, but I had one.
According to Lee Carroll and Jan Tober authors of a book published by Hay House Publishing, “An Indigo Child is one who displays a new and unusual set of psychological attributes and shows a pattern of behavior generally undocumented before.”
We are in the midst of human evolution and it is happening with our children and grandkids.
What does that mean to parents, day care providers and teachers who are trying to deal with these kids?
It means that discipline, reasoning and rigid rules that may have worked on other children will probably not work with Indigos. We need to shift our parenting styles and expectations in order to allow them to function well in a society that not only does not understand their actions, but wants to drug them.
The book goes on to list the common traits of Indigo children. I have adapted these with my own observations.
- They come into the world with a feeling of royalty.
- They have a sense of being here for a reason.
- Full of self worth and not much humility.
- Have difficulty with absolute authority or rigid rules.
- Have agreat deal of difficulty waiting in line or taking turns.
- Easily frustrated with systems that do not allow for creative thought and input.
- Often have a much better idea on how things should be done.
- May appear anti-social. School may be difficult for them socially. Would rather turn inward.
- Will not be manipulated by guilt or threats.
- If you ask them what they really want, they will tell you.
If your child has a number of these characteristics, you will want to research further on this subject. Our family found that old parenting styles were not going to work with an Indigo child.
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I have seen the same thing with today’s generation. What worked for my parents does not apply in general today. I spent 3 years teaching high school and was absolutely amazed at how little shame some young people have today. You simply cannot shame them into anything. They just shrug it off.
An the up side, these kids are brilliant. I think we are seeing some of the brightest children ever born. I am amazed at their creativity and insight. Perhaps that is why they can present such a challenge at times for those of us from previous generations.
Cheers.